- HSP | Interpersonal Communication Consultant | Speaker | Writer | Trauma Survivor | Pattern Disrupter
Hello there! My name is Alexandria Thibodeaux! I am a highly sensitive Creole living amongst the Rocky Mountains of Denver, CO with my husband and our 3 animal companions: Zuni & Theo (our cats) and Herman (our dog).
I am an interpersonal communication consultant who provides women the tools and techniques needed to them advocate for themselves through hard conversations.
I'm furthering a movement of self-advocacy through effective communication because I believe in a world where self-advocacy and effective communication are the sources and the catalyst for individual and collective upward mobility and human progression.
A driving force in my practice is self-reverence: deep admiration and deep respect for the self. Each and every human being on this planet possesses skills and knowledge of uniquely unparalleled value and worth — and alone warrants deep admiration and deep respect for the self. And, in addition to that, each and every person on this Earth has and will continue to survive trauma — again, that is a significant part of the human experience that deserves to be recognized, championed, and supported.
With that, I am a trauma survivor myself and I am trauma-informed and I work heavily with survivors.
I’m also an HSP (highly sensitive person) and largely serve that population as well.
I do this work because:
Self-advocacy and effective communication are EVERYTHING. It's how we create movement in this world, it's how we push the collective forward, progress human society, advocate for ourselves & others, and create change. It's how we represent ourselves in integrity. It's how we thrive in fulfilling interpersonal relationships. And as entrepreneurs, it's how we scale our businesses and nurture & maintain socially and financially successful businesses.
I am currently experiencing a journey I am calling an Identity Rebirth & Cultural Renaissance. You see — I am 30 and discovered only just 4 years ago that I have African ancestry in my DNA. AND… it gets more interesting… it wasn’t until March 2020, that I actually received familial confirmation, affirmation, and validation that I am, in fact, a Black american. Essentially, I just fully and securely discovered that I’m Black after 29 years of believing and living as though I was white.
Yes. This is all true! It’s WILD!
Long story short — I’m Black, my parents are Black, my whole family is Black — and my parents (and biological sister who is 20 years older than me) rejected their truth as Black americans and raised me to do the same and believe and live as though I was white, which in their view, was better. I was raised to demonize Black people and anything related to Black culture.
Here’s the rub. I am Creole, a person or people of mixed colonial French, African American, Spanish, and Native American ancestry. To alleviate any confusion — this translates to the race of Black. I am Black. Creoles are Black. My parents and extended family are from Southern Louisiana and many of them still reside there. Not my immediate family. I was born and raised in one of the whitest places ever: Naperville, IL. So I grew up away from any people of color or any type of cultural diversity. Just white, white, white. This is why I was able to easily live this gaslit lie of being white and white-passing when I definitely wasn’t and still am not! It wasn't until I was 20 years old and met my wonderful husband, John, (the whitest man ever) and he enlightened me and I healed from my racist mindset. Thank goodness!
Now that I know my truth, I am whole-heartedly embracing it! I am a loud, proud, Black woman! It’s been a wonderfully expansive journey so far and I am loving learning more and more about myself and my culture each day!